The consequences of the parenting style that we apply with our children can last a lifetime. Therefore, we must educate in a conscious and informed way.
Being a parent is one of the most demanding tasks in the world. Therefore, each parent tries to do the best they can with the tools available to them. Most are based on what they know (their own experience as children) and try to repeat or modify their patterns. However, whether they are aware of it or not, all parents end up adopting one of the four parenting styles that exist.
Four different parenting styles
To shed a little light on the dark, we have taken a closer look at four parenting styles. We summarized the various characteristics as well as possible advantages and disadvantages for you:
The authoritarian style of upbringing
The authoritarian upbringing style is characterized by many rules, strict regulations that must be consistently adhered to as a child, and high expectations on the part of parents. Rewards or punishments are also typical features of the authoritarian parenting style.
For the most part, the children have to submit to their parents and follow the authorities’ instructions. In the past, particularly, the authoritarian style of upbringing was often used to instill discipline and a sense of duty in the youngest children.
Features of the authoritarian parenting style:
- Parents determine and dictate to the children what and how they have to do things
- Parents are in control of their children
- Failure to comply with the rules will result in punishment
Disadvantages of a strictly authoritarian parenting style:
- Parent-child relationships are often characterized by distance and less warmth
- Lack of exchange between parents and children
- Children may not be able to develop and express their creativity
Democratic parenting style of upbringing
The democratic style of upbringing is primarily characterized by the fact that children and parents meet at eye level. In other words, the pioneer of the democratic style of upbringing is the anti-authoritarian upbringing method.
In contrast to the authoritarian style of upbringing, the children are given a few rules and, at the same time, given a lot of freedom of action. The aim of this educational method is that the personality of the children can develop freely.
However, this method of education is not free of any rules. Here, too, some certain rules and limits must be adhered to, but without restricting the child’s self-development.
Features of democratic parenting style:
- Important decisions are discussed beforehand between parents and children
- Parents involve children in decisions and want to know their opinion. Above all, the parents ultimately make the decision itself
- Parents encourage their kids to be independent and to take initiative to make their dreams come true
Advantages and disadvantages of democratic parenting style:
- Children are raised with confidence and often show compassion for those around them
- The ability to work in a team is learned early, which pays off later in school and professional life
The egalitarian style of upbringing
In the egalitarian style of upbringing, strict equality applies between parents and children. Thus no distinction is made between an adult and a child. A child’s opinion matters just as much as that of a parent or another adult.
Features of the egalitarian parenting style:
- Absolutely no hierarchy, which means that the children do not have to submit
- Extreme form of enhancement of the democratic education method
- The child must agree to the decision; otherwise, it will not be carried out
Advantages of the egalitarian parenting style:
- Children are raised very strongly to be proactive and active
- The self-confidence of the children and their independence is strengthened
Disadvantages of the egalitarian parenting style:
- The decision-making process can take a long time, as both parents and children have to agree on a decision
- The children are used to having a say in everything
The laissez-faire parenting style
Translated, Laissez-Faire means “let it do”. As the name suggests, this form of upbringing stands for excessive tolerance and indifference on the part of parents. To put it hard, this method means that parents, by and large, leave their children to their own devices and only take on a very passive role as parents. With the laissez-faire upbringing model, parents also do not make any demands on their children and often approach them with aloofness.
Features of the laissez-faire parenting style:
- Parents are not very interested in upbringing. Often they let their children get away with anything and without any consequences
- This style of parenting is often characterized by indifference
Disadvantages of the laissez-faire parenting style:
- Children are left to their own devices and experience little security from their parents’ home
- Parents behave indifferently and disinterested in their children, which is why they often feel undesirable
Of course, these are just different styles of upbringing for orientation and to be able to get a theoretical picture. You will decide on the instinct and depending on the right educational measure’s situation and let the best of the different educational styles flow into your very individual upbringing.